Relocate when Remote
Relocate when Remote
I'm in the fortunate situation of being 80% remote, but I'm on new child leave. This is allowing me to work remote 100% for 3 months when I return. This helps a lot as we are not in town. We are instead out of town where both sets of grandparents live. We moved to a small PNW town last year and purchased a wonderful (non-BH) home. I like the town minus winter (at times) and smoke from wildfires. It has some of the best people I've ever met in terms of reasonableness and friendliness without being fake. P2 does not care for it. If I move to 100% remote, this would grant us the opportunity to relocate. My parents are retired. P2's parents are semi-retired. P2 would like to relocate somewhere with better weather (ie no snow and it'd be better if there was an ocean around) and better restaurants and shopping. We relocated from SoCal last year.
After living in a small town, I realize how much I dislike dealing with traffic. It's not just the commute to/from work, but traffic to go to physician appointments, grocery, retail, etc, etc. Family all live in a very large metropolitan area with not the worst, but bad traffic. I grew up there and never was a fan. P2 would like to either be near family in large metro or California. My preference would be something more like Prescott, AZ or Albuquerque, NM. I prefer the weather and small-ish towns with amenities I need (Costco, Grocery/Farmer Markets, airport, etc). I'm wondering if any of these are a better option or to stay where we are. While the retail I would consider to be sufficient where we are, P2 disagrees, and about every 2-3 months we drive to the large metro so she may take advantage of the amenities. Prescott has better weather than where we are and is much closer to a large metro with the amenities P2 prefers. It's also driving distance to friends in SoCal. Airport is very small and would require the haul to PHX. NM has much less, but airport is much closer. Obviously, taxes are worse in NM too. NM is a long day's drive to family.
I don't want to let the tax tail wag the dog here, but I am much more relieved to accommodate P2's spending habits saving as much as we do on taxes/COL vs SoCal. Thoughts?
Appreciated
cowbman
After living in a small town, I realize how much I dislike dealing with traffic. It's not just the commute to/from work, but traffic to go to physician appointments, grocery, retail, etc, etc. Family all live in a very large metropolitan area with not the worst, but bad traffic. I grew up there and never was a fan. P2 would like to either be near family in large metro or California. My preference would be something more like Prescott, AZ or Albuquerque, NM. I prefer the weather and small-ish towns with amenities I need (Costco, Grocery/Farmer Markets, airport, etc). I'm wondering if any of these are a better option or to stay where we are. While the retail I would consider to be sufficient where we are, P2 disagrees, and about every 2-3 months we drive to the large metro so she may take advantage of the amenities. Prescott has better weather than where we are and is much closer to a large metro with the amenities P2 prefers. It's also driving distance to friends in SoCal. Airport is very small and would require the haul to PHX. NM has much less, but airport is much closer. Obviously, taxes are worse in NM too. NM is a long day's drive to family.
I don't want to let the tax tail wag the dog here, but I am much more relieved to accommodate P2's spending habits saving as much as we do on taxes/COL vs SoCal. Thoughts?
Appreciated
cowbman
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Have you ever lived in any of the smaller cities in SoCal, such as north county San Diego, Ventura, Santa Barbara counties, etc?
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We lived in North County. The commute on I-5 could be absolutely killer. Santa Barbara would be the best option, but we cannot afford it.
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Looks like there isn't much difference in COL between Oxnard and Prescott, whereas I imagine I would feel an enormous difference in QOL between the two.
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It's internet for parent #2. Like writing DS or DD for dear son and dear daughter.
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Ventura County isn't a bad idea, but the California taxes and COL will comprise our finances in a way that makes me uncomfortable without another source of income.
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I wonder if Reno should be added to the discussion too. Las Vegas ticks all the boxes, but not sure want to raise a kid there.
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Right after the birth of a child can be a rough time for a relationship especially if it is the first kid.
It sounds more like a relationship question than financial so you might want to consider getting some professional couples counseling to help figure out what you want to do next.
It sounds more like a relationship question than financial so you might want to consider getting some professional couples counseling to help figure out what you want to do next.
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It's not clear to me if you'll be permanently 100% remote after you return from parental leave.
If not, why would you relocate somewhere that is in a different state from your job? Would it be practical from a commuting standpoint for you to move to SoCal or NM?
I agree that you and your spouse need to be on the same page about where you want to live.
If not, why would you relocate somewhere that is in a different state from your job? Would it be practical from a commuting standpoint for you to move to SoCal or NM?
I agree that you and your spouse need to be on the same page about where you want to live.
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As commenter pointed out, it's not a done deal, but I say odds are very good. As this would be a large process and take time, I'm looking into it now.
P.S. I'm not sure we can afford SoCal.
P.S. I'm not sure we can afford SoCal.
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Relationship is solid, just trying to appease spouse.Watty wrote: ↑Wed Jun 07, 2023 11:38 pm Right after the birth of a child can be a rough time for a relationship especially if it is the first kid.
It sounds more like a relationship question than financial so you might want to consider getting some professional couples counseling to help figure out what you want to do next.
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Is it possible for someone to get a raise or promotion, or have both maxed out from a career perspective? Perhaps there also some tax deductions etc you can get as a new family?cowbman wrote: ↑Wed Jun 07, 2023 8:59 pmVentura County isn't a bad idea, but the California taxes and COL will comprise our finances in a way that makes me uncomfortable without another source of income.
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I think it is actually player 2 and in a context like this it usually refers to a significant other who may or may not be a spouse and/or parent.dukeblue219 wrote: ↑Wed Jun 07, 2023 8:58 pm
It's internet for parent #2. Like writing DS or DD for dear son and dear daughter.
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Long term, rural towns tend to have poor schools and limited access to quality healthcare among other downsides. At the end of the day, this is a marital issue more than a financial/location issue. Find a place you both agreed on that supports your career.
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It sounds like one or both of you need to compromise as the things you both think are important are not compatible. In that case, I'd be inclined to base my decision on moving to where I'd be most employable in the future should the 100% remote work option no longer be viable because you want to change roles, you are released in a re-org, your company changes its mind on remote work, etc.
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Considering industry trends, I wouldn’t assume remote work stays an option forever. Plenty of companies that became “remote first/forever” are ordering employees back to the office.
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Thanks all. I have a government position that is guaranteed via union, so forcing me to return completely is very difficult
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This is definitely an issue. We inherently want different things. I don't want traffic and P2 doesn't want isolated or LBYM.MoonOrb wrote: ↑Sun Jun 11, 2023 12:10 pm It sounds like one or both of you need to compromise as the things you both think are important are not compatible. In that case, I'd be inclined to base my decision on moving to where I'd be most employable in the future should the 100% remote work option no longer be viable because you want to change roles, you are released in a re-org, your company changes its mind on remote work, etc.
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Good ideas. I'm basically maxed out without getting a second job. P2 is staying home with child for now.muffins14 wrote: ↑Sun Jun 11, 2023 9:37 amIs it possible for someone to get a raise or promotion, or have both maxed out from a career perspective? Perhaps there also some tax deductions etc you can get as a new family?cowbman wrote: ↑Wed Jun 07, 2023 8:59 pmVentura County isn't a bad idea, but the California taxes and COL will comprise our finances in a way that makes me uncomfortable without another source of income.
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You seem extremely confident that this government cannot agency cannot direct you to go back into the office. This seems rather risky - government agencies can make changes at the whims of elected politicians/citizens. I don't know of any union that can guarantee that you can continue to work from home for as long as you like.
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I also have two positions for which I've been accepted in the same agency that are remote positions.tj wrote: ↑Sun Jun 11, 2023 3:14 pmYou seem extremely confident that this government cannot agency cannot direct you to go back into the office. This seems rather risky - government agencies can make changes at the whims of elected politicians/citizens. I don't know of any union that can guarantee that you can continue to work from home for as long as you like.
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If not I can always find other telework positions. My job is always in demand, but supply/demand don't apply to pay in my field.tj wrote: ↑Sun Jun 11, 2023 3:14 pmYou seem extremely confident that this government cannot agency cannot direct you to go back into the office. This seems rather risky - government agencies can make changes at the whims of elected politicians/citizens. I don't know of any union that can guarantee that you can continue to work from home for as long as you like.
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Our small town, well not that small in my histor since it is 60,000 approximately and adjacent to a much larger city, has ready access to Costco and other major stores within ten miles at most. One of the key issues for us is the traffic which is minimal. Less than two miles to HD, Lowe's, Kroger's, and other stores, walking distance to a 300 acre park, two miles to another of a similar size, etc. We have relatives in Nashville where we visit about twice a month. The traffic is terrible and enough to avoid moving there, though the housing costs are absurd compared to where we live currently. Our house would sell for approximately $400 a sf in Nashville, compared to selling prices of approximately $180 in our subdivision which is definitely upscale. A Ford plant is coming in within driving distance for workers, and the Ford people's comment when taking an aerial tour over our city was "Wow! The houses are so big and nice for excellent prices."
Tim
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