Bismarck, Did you notice my suggestion for YOU to get POAs too? This is because you can use your own situation to determine if YOU need a POA or not, instead of focusing on your dad. Tell him you've been reading about it and know several people younger than you [on this forum] that have incorporated them into their plans to make things easier for their loved ones. They put their wishes in writing, just in case something happens to them sometime in the future. The discussion with him would really be about you and why you are considering them for yourself. You can ask for his opinion for who he thinks would make good financial and health care choices for YOU. What qualities should your agent have [honesty, trustworthy, financial experience]? Does that person need to live near you? [No.] When it comes to health decisions, would that person be able to stand up for your choices even if they were different from what they would want for themself? [Yes.] Does he know anyone who has created POAs? [use this as a source so you can later find out who their attorney was] Does he know anyone who ended up wishing they didn't have the POAs? Make it sound like it sounds right for you and you will get them soon after you get home. Then DO IT!bismarck23 wrote: ↑Tue Jan 18, 2022 2:25 am But, it would still be way better to have had an attorney put together a complete plan on this. My efforts to get my dad to do that were unsuccessful. . .
Here's another idea.
Have you ever heard of Five Wishes? It is a Power of Attorney form for medical decisions that is valid in most states that you can fill out at home. It only kicks in if the patient is unable to speak for themself. Some of the form is check boxes and some is writing in a sentence or two that states your final wishes, based on the prompts/questions. This would be perfect for both of you to fill out together and discuss it as you go along. Get extra copies of the forms so you can both re-do yours if it gets too messy. I think you need a witness when you sign it. But try to both sign it at about the same time, then immediately go get some copies of each and give the original to the designated decision maker and make sure your dad has a copy of both of yours.
Once that is complete, the financial DPOA should be easier to do.
Be sure you thank your dad profusely for helping YOU!