+1000KlangFool wrote: ↑Mon May 17, 2021 1:22 pm Folks,
In any reasonable size organization, 20% of the folks are doing 80% of the works. So, if you are any good, you will be overwork if you do not learn to say "no". And, the horrible part of this is if you are overwork, the quality of your work will go down and/or you will be burn out. Aka, you would not last long.
A) Not everything is worth doing.
B) If you say "yes" to everyone, you are a pushover. No one will think highly of you.
C) If you willing to work for free (weekend, vacation time, and so on), your time must not be very valuable to you. Hence, by extension, you are not that valuable too.
Set a priority. Do whatever can be done with good quality within your office hour. Or else, face burn out and disappointment.
Look. NOBODY is essential. NOBODY is irreplaceable. If a person truly is, the business is either loony toons OR they pay a lot of “Key Man” insurance (Key Person, I suppose). My grandpa said before he retired that there would be people lined up out the door to take his place. That is even more true today.
Also, very important: company loyalty died with pensions. People job hop. It might be nice not to, but most do, and it brings you new experiences (plus a fresh chance to negotiate pay) and makes you a more valuable employee. Don’t get stale in one company.
It is a responsibility of the employee to say NO when it is too much. Sure, it’d be nice if management stepped in and hired 2 more people. Dream folks . Management is just as overworked, drowning in emails and meetings. Management always will give more work to those who “can handle it”. I always felt bad for my manager! Budgets are set yadda yadda. Too bad. You HAVE to leave work and go home to family, have downtime, take your vacation (and stay off the darned computer/phone, set your Out Of Office message to contact your manager name/#/email).
OP: My concern is that You are going to the next job, only to recreate the same pressure cooker for yourself, unless you learn the value and importance of setting boundaries on work time. If you want to work in the p.m., fine. But do not be on your phone at the dinner table and call it your job’s fault. Set limits **for yourself** . There are loads of studies out there, showing how creativity and productivity improve dramatically when you get away to other pursuits (if you’re not familiar with this, unplugging means you are totally not thinking about work AT ALL... those whiz-bang ideas, the freshness with which you attack your work when you return, not to mention your personal health, attitude, and family well-being all flow so much better.)
What I am saying is that you may think you’re being productive on 11th working hour of the work day, but you are not (unless you’re working in the ER or NICU - a different species of super people!) . You’ll get more done in less time, for the benefit of your employer, as well (that seems to be important to you).
A brief comparison from my own experience:
a) Employer A: where “everyone” worked weekends, constantly on call etc.)...and yet, I said “I don’t do weekends”. Voila! Boundary set, I had a weekend. Amazing. For many years. And guess what? I still got promoted quickly, had preferred perks and the little bennies jobs can provide. Very intense job, but stepping away made me perform better.
b) Employer B: Loved the work and got sucked into it, extra time on projects, some weekends, very intense. This was an European employer who insisted that people take their vacations each year as an objective item. I decided to be a workaholic-type for various reasons... Burnout in <2 years. Quit. I did it the right way, handing off work, making sure others knew what was going on with projects, before I gave notice.
Also, OP, you’ll be fine. In your shoes, I’d take a vacation - no emails!!! - let your boss know, but I wouldn’t bother with the drama over burnout. Just schedule and take the vacation. When you return, it’s time to practice in this safe environment. Start setting your own boundaries- for your own sake (because hey, you’re considering quitting, right? So what’s the worse that can happen). Block out calendar time as Busy for no meetings. Not negotiable. Leave at a set time. Stay off work at home. Try it for a week and see how it goes.