Host gift for Thanksgiving
Host gift for Thanksgiving
We will be attending Thanksgiving out of town. Aside from food such as a pie or wine and cheese and stuff that can be carried, i am trying to think of an impressive gift. We will be spending a night or two with them.
What host/hostess gifts have you received that surprised and delighted you?
Some things that occurred to me :
Travel items.
Fine linen for the guest room we will be using.
They ski. Gourmet cook.
Budget: $100+ within that range. It should show.
What host/hostess gifts have you received that surprised and delighted you?
Some things that occurred to me :
Travel items.
Fine linen for the guest room we will be using.
They ski. Gourmet cook.
Budget: $100+ within that range. It should show.
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I wouldn't overthink it...just bring wine.
Edit to add: Or a nice bottle of scotch or bourbon if wine is too common.
I chuckled at the "fine linen" idea. If I got that as a gift from a guest my reaction would be "oh, they don't think we have nice enough sheets for them to sleep on".
Edit to add: Or a nice bottle of scotch or bourbon if wine is too common.
I chuckled at the "fine linen" idea. If I got that as a gift from a guest my reaction would be "oh, they don't think we have nice enough sheets for them to sleep on".
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If doing wine, find out what type they like and poke around in Vivino for a bit while in the wine/liquor store. Really good resource - we use it all the time.
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Yeti mugs, growlers
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A home decor? Like a vase with flowers or anything similar.
LOL I remember I spent thanksgiving at my partner's home in California and I gave them an outdoor chair which I thought was going to be perfect considering we will be spending our day in the backyard from a local spot in downtown and they LOVE it. It was a bit too much but you know we have to make an impression
LOL I remember I spent thanksgiving at my partner's home in California and I gave them an outdoor chair which I thought was going to be perfect considering we will be spending our day in the backyard from a local spot in downtown and they LOVE it. It was a bit too much but you know we have to make an impression
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Flowers delivered the day before you arrive. Or ... Work with your host/hostess to provide matching flower arrangements for the dinner table(s).
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When I host gatherings, parties, holiday meals, the invitees presence is all I ask for. If they decide to bring a bottle of wine or a side dish to share its a bonus...
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I'd be very weirded out if a guest brought sheets as a gift. Don't overthink this.
Flowers/wine/food make the most sense here, or possibly something unique from your hometown.
Flowers/wine/food make the most sense here, or possibly something unique from your hometown.
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It is a gesture. It is not Christmas. Keep it in bounds.
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I would think one can't go wrong with a nice wine, unless the hosts (or someone else you know will be present) do NOT want alcohol around, for any of several reasons.
I would NOT appreciate someone bringing something to eat, after I've arranged a menu, preparation, plans how/when to serve the meal.
If it's something that could be eaten LATER, that might not be so bad.
But for a one or two night stay, I'd already have all the meal planned and food in the house. I wouldn't be going shopping the morning after Thanksgiving, planning to cook the day after when I have guests AND we probably have some leftovers (which are usually enjoyed!).
But... you know your hosts and we don't
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I would NOT appreciate someone bringing something to eat, after I've arranged a menu, preparation, plans how/when to serve the meal.
If it's something that could be eaten LATER, that might not be so bad.
But for a one or two night stay, I'd already have all the meal planned and food in the house. I wouldn't be going shopping the morning after Thanksgiving, planning to cook the day after when I have guests AND we probably have some leftovers (which are usually enjoyed!).
But... you know your hosts and we don't
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A hotel room close by.
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Marble rye from Schnitzers.
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This is definitely something to consider unless they are the type to get horribly offended by this offer/suggestion.
Many would be delighted/relieved, even if they protested.
That's probably more of a concern for a longer stay...
Attributed to Franklin: "guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days"
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Two words: gift cards.
You decide the amount and they spend it on whatever they want.
I have a relative who solved this dilemma lickety split with those two words when I asked her what she wants for xmas.
You decide the amount and they spend it on whatever they want.
I have a relative who solved this dilemma lickety split with those two words when I asked her what she wants for xmas.
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A subscription to the Jelly of the Month club. It's the gift that keeps on giving.
Seriously, good wine and /or really good olive oil is always appropriate and always well-received. As it is a gift, just ensure that your hostess knows that it is an item for them to enjoy and is not expected to be opened / consumed over Thanksgiving.
Seriously, good wine and /or really good olive oil is always appropriate and always well-received. As it is a gift, just ensure that your hostess knows that it is an item for them to enjoy and is not expected to be opened / consumed over Thanksgiving.
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I'm always surprised with these gifting threads, inevitably the most popular answer is always "a good wine". Considering ~45% of the adult population drinks less than once a month and ~30% never drink at all, pretty significant statistical chance that you could go wrong. But, if you are close enough to someone to be spending Thanksgiving with them and staying at their home, I assume you would know them well enough to know whether they drink. Personally, I always go with something a little unique from where I am from that I am pretty sure everybody would enjoy; last time I was in a similar position I brought some bars of chocolate from Ritual (a local chocolate maker that has won multiple global competitions).ResearchMed wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 11:26 am I would think one can't go wrong with a nice wine, unless the hosts (or someone else you know will be present) do NOT want alcohol around, for any of several reasons.
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It's a fine recommendation if they like wine.MAKsdad wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 8:36 am I wouldn't overthink it...just bring wine.
Edit to add: Or a nice bottle of scotch or bourbon if wine is too common.
I chuckled at the "fine linen" idea. If I got that as a gift from a guest my reaction would be "oh, they don't think we have nice enough sheets for them to sleep on".
People buy me wine all the time. I have a bunch of unopened wine that I haven't gotten around to gifting to other people.
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When we had vacation rental properties, for any known anniversary/celebration or major holiday, we always had some sparkling cider in the fridge to welcome them, in addition to the regular goodies and souvenirs.stoptothink wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 2:05 pmI'm always surprised with these gifting threads, inevitably the most popular answer is always "a good wine". Considering ~45% of the adult population drinks less than once a month and ~30% never drink at all, pretty significant statistical chance that you could go wrong. But, if you are close enough to someone to be spending Thanksgiving with them and staying at their home, I assume you would know them well enough to know whether they drink. Personally, I always go with something a little unique from where I am from that I am pretty sure everybody would enjoy; last time I was in a similar position I brought some bars of chocolate from Ritual (a local chocolate maker that has won multiple global competitions).ResearchMed wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 11:26 am I would think one can't go wrong with a nice wine, unless the hosts (or someone else you know will be present) do NOT want alcohol around, for any of several reasons.
IF it was a returning guest, and we knew enough about them, then we'd get them a bottle of wine from a local winery, but not unless we were *sure*.
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I was thinking of getting chocolate caramel pecan covered candy apples
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I think consumable gifts are the best choice unless you know the person extremely well. While I always appreciate a bottle of fine wine, if you don‘t know their wine preferences, I’d consider a gift pertaining to their gourmet cooking hobby you mentioned.
A fine olive oil beyond what they might usually purchase and a selection of gourmet sea salts (peruse “The Meadow” site) come to mind.
A fine olive oil beyond what they might usually purchase and a selection of gourmet sea salts (peruse “The Meadow” site) come to mind.
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I agree. If I need a new lamp, table, set of linens, etc I'll buy what I want for my home. I hate to be ungracious but I've received things like that for various holidays and my internal reaction is "great, what am I going to do with THIS?"Stumptowngal wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 2:15 pm I think consumable gifts are the best choice unless you know the person extremely well. While I always appreciate a bottle of fine wine, if you don‘t know their wine preferences, I’d consider a gift pertaining to their gourmet cooking hobby you mentioned.
A fine olive oil beyond what they might usually purchase and a selection of gourmet sea salts (peruse “The Meadow” site) come to mind.
We all have enough material possessions at this point. Experiences and consumables are a much better gift unless you know otherwise.
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When staying overnight with friends in the past... only happened a few times, as usually I get a hotel... but I have sent a Thank You Gift after I had left.
Once a box of fine European Chocolates. Another time a box of goodies from Omaha Steaks. Another time a delivery of Edible Arrangements chocolate / fruit.
Once a box of fine European Chocolates. Another time a box of goodies from Omaha Steaks. Another time a delivery of Edible Arrangements chocolate / fruit.
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We received a very nice handwritten invitation from the host, inviting us to stay over. They have a self-contained apartment attached to the house. It would seem rude to get our own room after all that.ResearchMed wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 11:42 am
This is definitely something to consider unless they are the type to get horribly offended by this offer/suggestion.
Many would be delighted/relieved, even if they protested.
That's probably more of a concern for a longer stay...
Attributed to Franklin: "guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days"
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Lot of good suggestions. Thank you.
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I like this idea, delivered the day before. Has anyone gifted a maid service for the day?MJS wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 10:25 am Flowers delivered the day before you arrive. Or ... Work with your host/hostess to provide matching flower arrangements for the dinner table(s).
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A close family member does not drink and I don't to bring something he cannot participate in. The host does enjoy wine though.stoptothink wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 2:05 pmI'm always surprised with these gifting threads, inevitably the most popular answer is always "a good wine". Considering ~45% of the adult population drinks less than once a month and ~30% never drink at all, pretty significant statistical chance that you could go wrong. But, if you are close enough to someone to be spending Thanksgiving with them and staying at their home, I assume you would know them well enough to know whether they drink. Personally, I always go with something a little unique from where I am from that I am pretty sure everybody would enjoy; last time I was in a similar position I brought some bars of chocolate from Ritual (a local chocolate maker that has won multiple global competitions).ResearchMed wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 11:26 am I would think one can't go wrong with a nice wine, unless the hosts (or someone else you know will be present) do NOT want alcohol around, for any of several reasons.
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Flowers are never unwelcome.
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These dried fruit baskets always seem to be well received when we give them as gifts. They can be shared with guests, or saved for later.
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Gift from www.cowgirlcreamery.com. If hosts have the menu for the holiday all planned, they can serve it another time. Received one myself and loved it.
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I'm not sure an "impressive gift" is necessary. A gift should be "special" or "heartfelt".
Is there some edible thing from where you live that your hosts would like or that might make a fun conversation thing? Like a Houska or Cinnamon Raisin Roll from a local bakery (something you can have for breakfast the next day) Or a local "specialty" food you can bring and then enjoy with them the next day? (A pizza from the local pizza place? or some other "specialty" - breaded pork tenderloin, gravy, and dumplings (I've hand delivered quite a bit of that when I visit friends/relatives who have moved away).
I've been to gatherings where someone brought a new game for the hosts... we played the game after dinner.
How well do you know the hosts? Family? or will this be the first time you are meeting them? That might make a difference in gift choices.
Is there some edible thing from where you live that your hosts would like or that might make a fun conversation thing? Like a Houska or Cinnamon Raisin Roll from a local bakery (something you can have for breakfast the next day) Or a local "specialty" food you can bring and then enjoy with them the next day? (A pizza from the local pizza place? or some other "specialty" - breaded pork tenderloin, gravy, and dumplings (I've hand delivered quite a bit of that when I visit friends/relatives who have moved away).
I've been to gatherings where someone brought a new game for the hosts... we played the game after dinner.
How well do you know the hosts? Family? or will this be the first time you are meeting them? That might make a difference in gift choices.
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Doesn't sound like a good idea. I'm not sure I'd take it kindly if a houseguest arranged a maid service to arrive the day before they got there.PinotGris wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 4:35 pmI like this idea, delivered the day before. Has anyone gifted a maid service for the day?MJS wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 10:25 am Flowers delivered the day before you arrive. Or ... Work with your host/hostess to provide matching flower arrangements for the dinner table(s).
If they arranged it after they left, I think I'd take it even more personally.
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How about a bottle of Pepsi? You gonna tell me wine is better than Pepsi?? No way wine is better than Pepsi!
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What about some really quality (not gaudy) coasters? Easy to transport. Easy to store if they don't like them. Simple gift that you can spend as much or as little on as you want.
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Keep a small pumpkins from Halloween.
Make a turkey head and feathers out of construction paper and glue a tooth pick to each.
Stick the turkey head on the pumpkin. Have everyone write what they are thankful for on a feather and stick into the pumpkins to make a turkey.
Make a turkey head and feathers out of construction paper and glue a tooth pick to each.
Stick the turkey head on the pumpkin. Have everyone write what they are thankful for on a feather and stick into the pumpkins to make a turkey.
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Knack Gifts has some cute gifts. I used this recently for a housewarming present and it went over well.
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Consumables. Always consumables.
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+1 to all of this.MAKsdad wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 8:36 am I wouldn't overthink it...just bring wine.
Edit to add: Or a nice bottle of scotch or bourbon if wine is too common.
I chuckled at the "fine linen" idea. If I got that as a gift from a guest my reaction would be "oh, they don't think we have nice enough sheets for them to sleep on".
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A gorgeous puzzle? There are so many beautiful ones. Not a super hard one.
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I would not gift a maid service. While I am sure that you suggested this with good intentions, many people (myself included) would be offended to receive a maid service as a hostess/host gift. What exactly are you saying about your hosts if you send a maid service? That they don’t have a clean enough house!?!
My suggestions instead would be something consumable. Many people do not like knick knacks and will be bothered by one more thing to find a place to put or to take somewhere to donate. (Unless you specifically know of something your host collects or needs...this changes things.) Regardless, though, consumables are always a great answer. You’ve already received the suggestions of wine and scotch (both great suggestions), but here are some more:
Other Suggestions
Coffee beans - the locally roasted, specialty variety from a place near your home or an expensive, exotic hard-to-find bean
Local cheeses - again, an assortment of exotic, imported cheeses or local varieties (bonus points if you pair cheeses + gift wine, too)
If you’re traveling and your hosts live in a different region than you, craft a “region” consumables gift basket. If you have a high end gift store near you, they should help you be able to do this. For example, my basket might include local hot honey, maple candies, and pepper jam. For you, put in whatever are the local specialty products made near you!
My suggestions instead would be something consumable. Many people do not like knick knacks and will be bothered by one more thing to find a place to put or to take somewhere to donate. (Unless you specifically know of something your host collects or needs...this changes things.) Regardless, though, consumables are always a great answer. You’ve already received the suggestions of wine and scotch (both great suggestions), but here are some more:
Other Suggestions
Coffee beans - the locally roasted, specialty variety from a place near your home or an expensive, exotic hard-to-find bean
Local cheeses - again, an assortment of exotic, imported cheeses or local varieties (bonus points if you pair cheeses + gift wine, too)
If you’re traveling and your hosts live in a different region than you, craft a “region” consumables gift basket. If you have a high end gift store near you, they should help you be able to do this. For example, my basket might include local hot honey, maple candies, and pepper jam. For you, put in whatever are the local specialty products made near you!
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Gift a maid service??? Serious? LOL! That's saying "your place is a pig sty, here's some help."
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A few suggestions: If visiting around a holiday, we may gift nice, yard decorations if we know the family uses them, particularly for Halloween or Christmas. Also, since many change front door wreaths for Fall, Spring or topical occasions, those are sometimes use. More individual gifts might include use of a photograph having meaning with a company that makes jigsaw puzzles from them, combined with a "jigsaw board," which is essentially a nice, flat board. People who do puzzles often do them on a breakfast or dining table and can easily move incomplete puzzles if the table is needed for another purpose. Board games are nice. For example, if bridge is a game played, there are combination gifts including decks of cards, scorecards, napkins and card holders for discards or drawing cards that match. If the family has known heritage, German for example, there are board games from that culture that are common and different from those in the States. A nice set of stationary with names and addresses is typically appreciated. These gifts are more personal and require forethought, things such as monogramed towel sets are other possibilities.
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Like this one: https://www.costco.com/dowdle-costco-pu ... 00870.html
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Yes, there is, in typical American culture, an element of expected reciprocity to things like this among ~peers (less so if one party is, say, a generation older and assumed to be wealthier.)
But it's not an exact accounting, and there are multiple ways to meet any implied need for reciprocity.
The most straightforward is reverse hosting. Party A makes dinner in September, party B makes dinner in November.
In this case, that could mean hosting the hosts, in the future.
But, where that's not likely:
1) Treat the hosts to a nice meal at a restaurant
2) Bring consumables as a gift (Alcohol and pricey foods are nice)
3) Non-consumable items MAY be brought, but moreso if they don't carry a heavy "decoration" vibe that may clash with the host's style. Years ago, visitors to our home brought a nicely made wooden bowl - hard to go wrong with that - easy to find a use in almost any style of decor (or in a purely utilitarian role).
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Often, any physical gift has a connection to the visitor's home area. Maybe that symbolically represents the return visit from the hosts to the guests. i.e. If from Chicago, bring a couple of frozen deep dish pizzas, or Frango mints from the former Marshall Field's. If from CA, Napa wines. If from down South - a nice pecan pie or other product of the area. Real maple syrup from New England, etc.
But it's not an exact accounting, and there are multiple ways to meet any implied need for reciprocity.
The most straightforward is reverse hosting. Party A makes dinner in September, party B makes dinner in November.
In this case, that could mean hosting the hosts, in the future.
But, where that's not likely:
1) Treat the hosts to a nice meal at a restaurant
2) Bring consumables as a gift (Alcohol and pricey foods are nice)
3) Non-consumable items MAY be brought, but moreso if they don't carry a heavy "decoration" vibe that may clash with the host's style. Years ago, visitors to our home brought a nicely made wooden bowl - hard to go wrong with that - easy to find a use in almost any style of decor (or in a purely utilitarian role).
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Often, any physical gift has a connection to the visitor's home area. Maybe that symbolically represents the return visit from the hosts to the guests. i.e. If from Chicago, bring a couple of frozen deep dish pizzas, or Frango mints from the former Marshall Field's. If from CA, Napa wines. If from down South - a nice pecan pie or other product of the area. Real maple syrup from New England, etc.
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lots of good ideas, thank you all. with all these ideas it will be almost fun to shop!
i can see now how a maid service gift would have been a disaster.
i can see now how a maid service gift would have been a disaster.